I just need to get this off my chest, I feel really sick to my stomach and really hurt. I recently found out my wife of 45 years and dated her for a year before marring her was a big time whore. She came clean with me one day before our 45 wedding anniversary and some what told me what she was and what she did. I am guessing she held this inside of her for all this years and need to somehow needed to be honest. I know that she had a very high number of guys and women since their facility was walking distance from a hotel for military guys and women. I ask her what her numbers were and she did not know but she would do from 20 to 30 a day or night, and most of the week, she did it for 2 years, I know now she did much less when we were dating. She wouldn’t say if she did it when we got married. Well to keep it short I felt like someone punched me in the gut and I don’t know what to do, I love her very much and and don’t want to throw all our years together away. There is though of divorcing her ass. If any of you out there went thru this same situation or caught your spouse cheating. How did you get over this sicking feeling? I found out about this during this past April 2024 By the way she correct my by saying, she wasn’t a Whore, she was a call girl I also asked her about protection and did say it was required
Lucky man! At least you know where you stand - however you need to know why. Weren't you giving her enough? Did she want the extra thrills? Secretly does this life turn you on (or off)? If yes, ask whether she'd be willing to bring you into the fold. If no, then it can only get messy & both families can get very hurt.
A couple of years ago, I met a lady who turned out to be a nymphomaniac - my first. She had decided to play up after her ex mistreated her & she divorced him. I knew she was seeing other men (I met her on an adult contact list & couldn't believe that she was willing to play with married men & women - in fact it was me who encouraged her in her bi-sexual awakening. However God found her & she has given up her wild side to be with a genuine friend.
I don’t think I will ever find out that question of why. I am guessing she feels better by telling me, but I feel like crap learning this, I get it both ways.
The only thing I can tell you is look in the mirror and see who she is with and who she comes home to willingly giving you everything you might ask for in bed so go get you some of her wild side and don't be so vanilla about some things. You still love her right. Have her treat you like one of her dates if that's what you need. But by all means enjoy her and her willingness to be honest with you. I would have taken her to the bedroom and had her show me what she would do to them and enjoy it.. email anytime
